Our Dad (Speech from his funeral by Sam)
Created by Sam 7 years ago
Since Dad passed
away we have been inundated with sympathy cards, flowers and kind
words, which have not only comforted us but also shown us what a
well-loved, respected man he was. There are 3 ways in which Dad has
frequently been described – the life and soul of the party, a true
gentleman and a family man. All of us here today will have our own
special memories of Dad, but I couldn't agree more with these three
descriptions.
Dad was the life and
soul of the party – he had a great sense of humour and he loved
entertaining and making people laugh. Some of my earliest memories
are of Dad at family parties, always centre of attention, and at
weddings – one of the first up on the dance floor, playing air
guitar to Status Quo or leading the line for Oops Upside Your Head.
This didn't change in later life, only the music did.. He was still
the first up dancing, and I'm sure anyone who was at my 40th birthday party will never forget his surprise naked butler
appearance! He was extremely popular at Universal, where he worked
for many years - as a child I used to love going into the office and
seeing this sociable, outgoing character, and felt extremely proud he
was my Dad.
I think the true
gentleman and family man part of Dad go hand in hand. To me he was an
incredible role model, and someone I knew I could always turn to for
advice and support. Dad thought the world of Mum – they were
together over 50 years and although different in many ways, were an
amazing couple who have been truly inspirational to me. It is too
difficult for Mum to get up and speak at this very sad time but she
said she feels like the light of her life has gone out.
Dad also thought the
world of us three daughters and his four wonderful grandchildren, and
was always there for us. After he passed, my husband Dan reminded me
of all the happy memories we would always have and said that one
thing he would always remember was how Dad's face lit up when he was
surrounded by his family. I asked Luke what he thought of when he
thought of his Grandad – he said lots of games, jokes and fun,
which pretty well sums it up. Personally I have fantastic early
memories of camping trips and cinema visits with Dad, incredible
family holidays, and later on the huge support and encouragement he
gave me through my university years and beyond. He loved my friends
and welcomed them into the family too and always reminded me that it
was a wide world out there and gave me the confidence to make the
most of it.
I have a lot to
thank my Dad for. I've travelled a lot in my life and been lucky
enough to live overseas twice. When I was younger Dad went on a trip
to Japan – when he came back he didn’t stop talking about it for
what seemed like months and although we took the mickey at the time,
this definitely planted the seed for travel with me. When I decided
to move to Australia, Dad was hugely encouraging (even though it was
so far way and this was before the days of email and cheap flights).
Our move to Spain, where Dan and I lived and Luke was born, wouldn't
have happened without Dad's emotional and financial support at the
beginning of that adventure.
I shared his love of
good food and wine. When we were younger he would spend whole
Saturday afternoons preparing delicious Chinese banquets from
scratch, and his Sunday roasts were legendary. That enthusiasm for
cooking has passed to me, although sadly none of his gardening
skills. I also inherited his drive and competitiveness. As children
he would never let us win - be it games of Monopoly, crib or crazy
golf. At the time this drove me mad, but it definitely gave me that
fighting spirit and I was very competitive academically.
Unfortunately though I didn't get Dad's sporting ability – I used
to be so proud when he came to my junior school to help with cricket
and rounders and show us how it was done, but still remained one of
the last to be picked for sporting teams!
Dad had endless
generosity of spirit – he could always see the good in people and
wanted to look out for and look after those less fortunate than
himself. I'd like to think I have inherited some of that and
definitely share the political views he loved to voice in heated
discussions – don't worry Dad, I promise I will never vote
Conservative!
Dad taught me that life is for living and we should
always make the most of it as we never know what's round the corner.
Sadly the last few months showed us that, but Dad fought bravely
until the end. The Sharp family motto, shown on the Sharp coat of
arms, is “while I have breath, I hope”. I think Dad embodied this
and I appreciate how lucky I am to have had him as my Dad. It's hard
to describe how much we'll miss him but I know he'll be watching over
us from now on and I hope we can make him proud.